Starting Again. Making Friends.

[s.a.h]

Hi all, stumbled across this forum and just thought I might share a few things, see where it takes me.



I'm Shayne, 18, living in the inner suburbs of Melbourne. To simply put, I am struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder which affects my social life completely.

I had a rough time through school being picked on, and I never fought back or anything, the school never helped me, I left school at 15 and my life pretty much stopped.

I had a few friends through High School, but eventually I was abandoned for others.



I still talk to one or two people occasionally, but I don't have to confidence to be a hugely social person, I just want someone else to talk to about, anything really, going places, having a laugh.



I try go out as much as I can, but I find it terribly boring when I don't have anyone else with me.



I see a psychologist at the moment, but the best thing for me is to try and socialize in little steps at a time as they have said. But, I don't know where to start, I go out to the shops and the people behind the counter ask how I am, and that's pretty much it.

I have tried to strike up conversations but always feel that I am pushed to the side, and I hate feeling like this. I want supportive friends, who I will be there for, and they will be there for me.



I have done some courses at TAFE and I struggled to make friends there as well, I used to get a long with the teachers a lot. I have found I often socialize with people older than me as I feel people the same age will not accept me.



Hobbies, I like Music, I like messing about with Computers - one thing that keeps me happy. I like to sketch and draw, used to do a lot of cartoons through high school as well. I am a typical "nerd" or however to mention it, I accept I like my tech stuff, and I want people to accept me for who I am.



I don't want this sounding like a feel sorry for me story. It's not. I want to be able to socialize, gain that confidence back in the world again. Friends would be great, and I want people to understand me, and know that I am a sensitive person, but always open to doing things someone else likes.



I feel embarrassed about posting about this, but, I am trying to see where this can take me.



Thanks very much for reading, and hopefully someone is keen for a meet up or a chat, although, it will be very awkward at first of course.



Best regards to all -



Shayne.

[fallah]

[size="3"]Hi dear,[/size]



[size="3"]First I would like to tell you that my home language is not En so maybe you will find a mistake. Sorry for that.[/size]



[size="3"]I was looking for a forum that anyone wants to speak EN language to improve my language. Suddenly I entered here and I saw your massage and I said “look at this guy why he is sad?” at lease can speak En hahahahah (jock).<img src='http://www.melbournechat.org/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/officechair.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':officechair:' /> [/size]



[size="3"]I can give you an advice maybe will help you. Look at the people, you will see some can’t talk, can’t see, can’t hear and you can use all that. That’s mean you are better than them in that comparison.[/size]



[size="3"]Anyone in the world is better than others for something and same time worse than other for something.



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[kikit2525]

Hey Shayne,



I'm Chiara and I am going to migrate to Melbourne in 2 years hopefully. Just wanted to get acquainted with somebody, and I had the same life as you did. It was hell. So maybe we can help each other out here. When I come to Melbourne, I will have a friend. Will you be my friend?



God bless you,

Chiara

[diamondzhm]

Hello Shayne,



I'd like to be your friends and talk with you and I think there will come helps from me who can help you and when I was young I was similar to your present situation and I think you will be better in the future and my email address is [email="diamond@webcruzer.com"]diamond@webcruzer.com[/email] and I am a Chinese and this is the first time ,I joined in this forum .



Best regards,



Diamond









[quote name='Chiara Perera' timestamp='1314086186' post='34922']

Hey Shayne,



I'm Chiara and I am going to migrate to Melbourne in 2 years hopefully. Just wanted to get acquainted with somebody, and I had the same life as you did. It was hell. So maybe we can help each other out here. When I come to Melbourne, I will have a friend. Will you be my friend?



God bless you,

Chiara

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[crylea]

Heya, I also have BPD. Just got out of a long term relationship and don't have many friends left.



Hit me up on facebook



www.facebook.com/crylea

[Brigh81]

Hi shayne



Highschool was torture for me as well and dropped out when I was 15... I'm 29 now and still have problems with confidence and meeting people..



I moved down from qld in Jan and have found it really hard to make friends...



If you wanna chat some more let me know



Cheers

Bri